My phone is like an extension of me. I won't lie, I'm guilty of being that person who is just aimlessly scrolling through their social media whilst at the dinner table, or I'll double-tapping to my heart's content on Instagram whilst trying to have a real life conversation at the same time and consequently missing everything the other person has just said to me. Yep, sometimes I'm the worst, and through my shame I hold my hands up to it. It is something that I have become increasingly more and more aware of, and lately I'm just really f*cking tired of being on my phone all of the time.
Don't get me wrong, phones are great. How cool is it that we can do so many things from the very palm of our hands? My phone allows me to call my mother every single time adulting confuses me and I need her help. My phone allows me to stay in touch with my friends from all over the world in just a few taps. My phone allows me to read all of the news and keep up with what's currently going on in the world. My phone allows me to listen to my favourite song on repeat for hours on end when I'm alone so that it can't annoy anyone. My phone allows me to read books, listen to podcasts, take photos, edit photos, upload photos, manage my money, track my sleep, get directions - all in just a few taps! Wow.
Alas, as great as my phone may be, being on my phone all of the time is draining. Not only am I missing out on little moments in real life because I'm totally incapable of setting my phone down for two minutes (and consequently sometimes seeming like a total rude b*tch, I'm not, I promise!) but it also makes me procrastinate terribly. I can't even begin to imagine how much blogging I would get done in a single Sunday afternoon if I could just stop my hand from gravitating towards my phone as the urge to scroll through Instagram strikes yet again.
In truth, being a blogger just makes it that much harder. I frequently feel inclined to up my social media presence because I have this digital platform. I often feel like I should be tweeting more, I should be sharing more on Instagram, I should be doing more. But realistically, it's just not possible. Even when you have an "online presence" or are attempting to build an online brand, there's only so much digital one human can take. And as of late, I've really been reaching my limit. It has been negatively affecting so many things, from my mental health, to my relationships, my sleep, my productivity as mentioned before, and so much more. Now, don't get me mistaken. I'm not about to go on a total detox from all things digital, I think I would suffer from genuine withdrawal. Instead, here are a few of the ways in which I'm going to make more of a conscious effort to set down my phone more often to be more involved in the moment.
No phone in the evenings.
With Adam and I both working full time, we often find ourselves being like passing ships in the night. Depending on our schedules, there are some weeks I'll maybe get to see him for just over an hour in the evening when he gets home before we need to hit the hay. And I'll admit, I'll sometimes spend that time mindlessly refreshing Instagram every two minutes, and it's like we haven't even spent any time together at all. Even when I'm spending an evening alone, I could be doing so much more with that "me" time that I have before going to bed. I could treat myself to a welcomed pamper session after a stressful day at work, or I could read half of a book, or blitz through a couple of episodes of Gossip Girl - all instead of feeling like I should be present in the digital world. And so, from now on I'm making more of a conscious effort to switch my phone off in the evenings, either to spend some quality time with loved ones or simply some quality time with myself.
Working = airplane mode on.
My phone is my biggest distraction, and I think this might just be the biggest problem. In my full time day job, it's fine, because we have a no phone policy and mine is usually tucked into my drawer under my desk. But I desperately need to bring that no phone policy home with me when I'm trying to get on with blog work and general life admin. I find it so difficult to just set my phone to the side and simply start working. And god, don't even get me started on when a notification comes through. I just can't help myself, I have to lift my phone to see what's going on and bam - there goes my train of thought. So from now on, if I hope to get anything done, airplane mode needs to go on whilst I'm working and won't be turned on again until my to-do list is complete.
So long, notifications.
Speaking of notifications, I think I need to say goodbye to them for the most part, even outside of trying to be productive. Because even when I find myself halfway through a conversation, or at the dinner table, or out for drinks with friends, I'll notice a notification come through and I'm suddenly side-tracked. Of course, I'll keep notifications on for important things such as calls and texts, because if anything pressing were to happen that's how my loved ones would choose to contact me. But everything else can wait until the real life conversations are done.
Do you ever feel like you're on your phone too much?Katy Belle.
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